Growth Strategy #13: The Work - challenge your thoughts


Growth Strategy #13: The Work - challenge your thoughts


Growth Strategy #13: The Work - challenge your thoughts

5 Oct 2023

I discovered the author Byron Katie in 2001, at a time in my life when I started to challenge my perception and judgment of others. Katie's book Loving What Is, is one of my favourite books, and the premise of her work, has become ingrained in the way that I live my life.

When I came across Katie's work, I was searching for ways to increase my internal locus of control and found her approach effective and easy to learn. Critics of her work, suggest Katie contributes to 'blame culture', however, I believe this approach helps individuals who are ready to heal and open up to the subjective nature of our reality and perceptions, setting us free to heal and grow.

Good for: Checking your perception and evaluating your ideas by increasing mental clarity and seeing things from a different perspective

Best completed by: You

"Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves." C.G. Jung

The process to challenge our perceptions is called The Work. It helps to evaluate our ideas by increasing mental clarity through the use of self-inquiry questions.

It is based on the simple idea that our thoughts create our reality and if we want to change our lives, we need to change our thinking. Katie suggests people's thoughts can cause suffering, especially when they believe their thoughts are true without challenging them.  Therefore, letting go of these thoughts and replacing them with healthier ones, allows someone to experience more peace and happiness. 

It consists of four powerful questions and a turnaround process that helps us unravel our perceptions and gain clarity.

The Process:

Identify a stressful thought: Begin by pinpointing a thought or belief that causes you distress, anxiety, or suffering. It could be a judgment about yourself, someone else, or a situation you find challenging.

The 4 questions to investigate the thought:

  1. Is it true? Investigate the truthfulness of the thought.

  2. Can you absolutely know it's true? Reflect on the certainty of your belief.

  3. How do you react when you believe that thought? Observe the emotional and behavioural consequences.

  4. Who would you be without the thought? Imagine your life without that thought, allowing new possibilities to emerge.

The Turn Around:

Examine the original thought from different angles and consider its opposite or a neutral variation. This step helps you explore alternative perspectives and better understand the situation.

Pros of 'The Work':

  • Self-reflection and self-awareness. Encourages deep introspection, leading to heightened self-awareness and a greater understanding of one's thoughts and patterns.

  • Stress reduction. Challenging our stressful thoughts and beliefs through 'The Work' helps alleviate emotional stress and can promote mental well-being.

  • Improved relationships. By questioning our judgments and assumptions about others, it can foster empathy, compassion, and better communication, ultimately enhancing our relationships.

  • Empowerment and personal growth. Individuals can experience personal empowerment as they discover their ability to change their perceptions and responses to life's challenges.

Cons of 'The Work':

  • Requires practice and dedication. Like any personal growth method, 'The Work' requires consistent practice and dedication to yield significant results. Integrating this process into your daily life effectively may take time and effort.

  • Emotional intensity. It may bring up intense emotions as you confront deeply ingrained beliefs. It's important to approach the process with self-compassion and seek support if needed.

  • Not a substitute for therapy. While 'The Work' can be a valuable self-help tool, it's important to note that it may not replace therapy or professional support for individuals dealing with complex psychological issues.

Imagine a person who is feeling overwhelmed and stressed at work. They constantly find themselves thinking, "I can't handle this workload; it's too much for me." This belief creates anxiety and affects their overall productivity and well-being.

One day, this person decides to apply 'The Work' to challenge their stressful thought. They take a moment to sit down and reflect on the four questions.

  1. Is it true? They contemplate the validity of their belief and realize that it might not be entirely true. They have successfully handled challenging situations in the past, which indicates that they are capable.

  2. Can you absolutely know it's true? They consider the certainty of their belief and acknowledge that they can't be absolutely certain. It's merely a thought they've been attaching themselves to.

  3. How do you react when you believe that thought? They observe the impact of their belief and notice that it leads to increased stress, decreased motivation, and a sense of helplessness.

  4. Who would you be without the thought? They envision themselves without the belief, imagining a sense of calmness, confidence, and clarity. They can see that they would approach their work with a more positive mindset.

Feeling inspired, they move on to the turnaround process. They explore the opposite statement, "I can handle this workload." They consider examples where they have managed similar situations successfully or seek support from colleagues when needed.

As they integrate 'The Work' into their daily life, this person starts to experience positive changes. They become more aware of their thoughts and catch themselves whenever they slip into the belief of being overwhelmed. Gradually, they develop resilience, finding effective strategies to manage their workload and seeking help when necessary.

Over time, their stress levels decrease, and they regain a sense of control and empowerment in their work. They build stronger relationships with colleagues, communicate their needs more effectively, and approach challenges with a newfound perspective.

Here are several ways you can apply 'The Work' in Everyday Life:

  1. Daily self-inquiry. Dedicate regular time for self-inquiry, questioning your thoughts and beliefs, especially when faced with challenging situations or emotional distress.

  2. Journaling. Write down your thoughts and beliefs, and then apply the four questions and turnarounds to gain clarity and insight.

  3. Compassionate listening. When engaging in conversations, practice listening without judgment and be open to considering alternative viewpoints.

  4. Cultivate self-compassion. Use 'The Work' to challenge self-critical thoughts and replace them with self-compassion and self-acceptance.

"As long as you think that the cause of your problem is "out there"—as long as you think that anyone or anything is responsible for your suffering—the situation is hopeless. It means that you are forever in the role of victim, that you're suffering in paradise." Byron Katie

Thank you for reading.


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